I am praying for you girl!! Losing a pet can be a traumatic experience for any child. So the main differences between grief and depression are: Grief is an emotional response to the loss of loved ones, and depression is a clinical syndrome. I am here to help. Unfortunately, although depression is a relatively common health issue, those suffering from depression are often stigmatized or unfairly treated. This umbrella term covers depression, anxiety, addiction, borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, and many other conditions. I dont blame them. I will pray for you. I was thinking of instead trying to appeal. Im here in recovery Im not allowing this to mess with my sobriety. I went to a pyshc ward to get off heroin and back on my bi polar meds. !I pray you have the means to fight the state .!!!!!! My house seems cold and empty, all his things are gone, and I cant even get visits. The adoptive family had my youngest on Prozac at age 7. But the case has been going on for so long, if the children are with their fathers now the judge will probably want to keep them in a stable place. This helps with depression. . Anxiety or depression Reaching out Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a complex mental health condition that typically involves a grandiose or inflated sense of self and an extreme need. It has been nearly 3 years and i totally feel exactly like you do!! Seniors may experience severe grief-related symptoms stemming from loneliness and a loss of a sense of purpose. I will let you all know how they work soon! You have to do it by force. I can only suggest life improvement and spiritual comfort. document.getElementById( "ak_js_2" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Law Office of Ben Carrasco, PLLC 108 Wild Basin Road South, Suite 250 Austin , TX 78746, Law Office of Ben Carrasco, PLLC 3710 Rawlins St. Suite 1420 What can I do for my grandson ? Ive proven that Im not worthless, incompetent, or undeserving. We only enter into attorney-client relationships with people who meet with our firm and sign a formal, written agreement with us. Molly uses her knowledge of the law and the rules to keep on a straight and narrow path., Through her knowledge, patience, and understanding, the matter was totally settled. Then they will want to see you and want you to be in their life! I just need some advice. And because of my certainty that I couldnt have children I was sexually active despite my current dependence on a drug. Recently, you may have read news stories about more and more spouses citing an exs depression in child custody cases. i need advice on staying in right direction. Now he calls another mom. Even my lawyer said, as long as they follow the law we will win. You cant expect not to feel depressed, but you can learn ways to deal with your grief. Did your son get adopted out? Get better education, a good job, pursue meaningful hobbies, or whatever it is you need to do to feel better about yourself. I am so sorry I am sad to know someone like me has experienced similar pain because I feel very alone. Grief can happen in response to loss of life, as well as to drastic changes to daily routines and ways of life that usually bring us comfort and a feeling of stability. Sharing experiences and learning from people in similar situations can be encouraging and helps people develop skills to cope. Subject to the childs best interests standard, you have every right to custody and visitation. I live in Ventura, Ca! I, too gave up a little girl for adoption. It is temporary!! I havent had my parental rights terminated but i dont know if they do if Ill be able to live with knowing I might never see my kids again. It all started when cps took all 5 of my children for domestic violence and im never going to get over it. Study depression. So i had moved out of my friends place thinking if i got in a better place they would leave me and my children alone. Losing custody of a child to child protection services is associated with significantly worse maternal mental health than experiencing the death of a child. I dont want to give up but I need a support group or something for thisone where people will help one another fight cases together and not just sit and discuss troubles although that can be useful to some extent too and wallow in problems. Walmart has it. ME AND MY JUST WENT THROUGH THAT CPS we WERE FIGHTING FOR OUR G.BABY AND OF COURSE we LOST.WE DONE EVERYTHING THEY WANTED FROM US.PASSED THE DRUG TEST THE WHOLE LOT.WHEN ALL WAS SAID AND DONE the reason why we didnt win was for one I came off too aggressive number two they dont return to convicted felons.I had a conviction. It is so much better for them to be with your mom rather than in an adoption out to strangers. They dont like me and wont return my calls. 187-214). This was in SC. I know that at the end of my journey here on earth Ill find my everlasting home and family in heaven. You have your trunks for your children because youre building your future with them. I am in arizona. i became homeless due to i could not be in my home where my lil guy stayed and still is with ex. Get sterilized so they cannot take another from you. With more money you could hire a private detective to find them when theyre older, or launch an all-out media and social-media campaign to find them when theyre teenagers. You may feel guilty for being the one who is still alive. I have tried numerous times to kill myself and am trying tonight. The more I have/ researched, the more I realize that it isnt just us,but I want to fight. With there father, the abuse and the drugs. So please get out your Bible and read these stories! I miss them so much and love with all my heart. Im now 49 they are 29 and 30. How To Gain Clarity About a CPS Investigation, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Eg3LZej0SI, A Law to Put a Dent in CPS Child Trafficking, Terms of Use, Compensation Disclosure, Privacy Policy, Request to Have Something Removed From the Site. The only reason I dont end it all is because Im afraid of what I would face on the other side. You might be withdrawing socially from your friends and loved ones who offer support. Seriously, STOP thinking of them. But sometimes (most of the time) we have to learn the hard way. I know exactly what you going through same similar situation man this system can make you go crazy but what I learn is that you cant let them intimidation you because thats what they looking for Im speaking my mind on everything they want to play us with our kids they only get the ones closer to you just so they can get at you. The psychological effects of child custody battles surface in a number of other waysfrom acting out to trouble sleeping to child custody depressionand do vary based on the age and maturity of the child. Maybe write letters to your children, and one day when you see them again, you can give them the letters (even if they are grown) You said you are lost in your feelings-write your feelings down! { HELP WITH CIVIL RIGHTS ATTORNEYS IN GEORGIA PLZ }, { You worked for them for 24 years, meaning you did horrific things to earn a living and you want to play victim? Then i got mad and decided to try and start completing the things that they put on my permanency plan. Eventually the truth will come out and everyone will know it. Never give up on them. My husband and i have been fighting to get our beautiful daughter back for over two years. I have over 2000 pictures of him and everything he went to foster care with was paid for by me. The Optimistminds editorial team is made up of psychologists, psychiatrists and mental health professionals. Kenneta, I got my baby back from CPS after eight months but my ex-husband used the CPS case against me in family court and lied about me in court documents. My mom is supposed to be adopting them I guess soon but we dont talk at all and shes had a lot to do with the reason I dont have my babies. I understand that grandparents have no rights in NC but rights or not, they should consider that they are dealing with human beings who have feelings and children who love the ones who care for them. I can honestly my family didnt deserve this. Pls go to my website and click on SIGN THE PETITION. Why are they allowed to abuse parents and kids. We started over and had a happy amazing life. In time, the shock will wear off and other emotions such as anger, guilt and regret may surface. My heart is beyond broken. I sang back-up in a band doing punk and glam songs. Im so tired not only did they take children they made my husband leave the home and move out right when we left the hospital. How Mental Illness Can Impact Child Custody Cases involving a parent with a mental illness are notoriously tricky. My heart was broken I lost my furry best friend within months of coming home she and I have been together for 11 years. We live in a sinful world where we are warned to take heed but sometimes no matter how good we try to be, evil overtakes us. I feel your pain. I just loved my family too much. Regain their trust and respect and above all, keep yourself clean. Please trust in Jesus and write everything down! My children were my life. Even now one of those daughters refuses to have anything to do with me. If I ever follow through with my plan, I will leave a note to each of my children telling them it was never their fault and Im sorry that I failed them. Now I have my two oldest daughters back in my life their 23 and 18. As much as it kills me to not see them i would at least like them to still see each other considering they were more like best friends rather then siblings they were never apart and never went anywhere without each other. i went on my own choice to get better for me and my kids. Xoxo. The idea that the relationship between you and your child will change following a seperation with your spouse or due to other issues can be distressing. Theyve already taken everything I have ever cared about and worked for my whole adult life. It is best that you do whatever you need to do to become part of the permanency plan for your childreneven if you only get to visit once a month. My lawyer told me i could not win. Depending on your particular challenges, you may work with a therapist on custody issues that are stressful for you and your child such as communicating, time spend together if you are allowed to, broaching the subject of why you have to be seperated. At that time because of this my 3 daughters were picked up by cps, and I was living in El Centro now. I told Abbie, that if I am in the love of God, and she is in the the love of God, then we are not really apart, even though we are not together. Next, can you please tell us more about your situation? We all have problems. Depression: Changes to your relationship with your child may leave you feeling sad, hopeless or depressed. God. He is there in the fog with you. A lot of adopters are open to this. We got a better Parent Aid. I buy a Christmas ornament for the kids each year & hang all the ornaments on the tree. The Bible says for now we see through a glass darkly. 1 Corinthians 13:12. Your baby knows you and knows somethings wrong, that you love him and that hes been moved. It takes a lot of time and effort to overcome your grief. You can trust a lawyer to advocate on your behalf and seek the best possible outcome. Depression After the Death of a Loved One Losing a Child Increases Risk of Mental Illness. I PRAY FOR STRENGTH.. If you have any concerns, regarding the custody issues and need more information or clarity its best to seek advice and support from a legal professional. (What are they going to do?Accuse me of trying to fight for my legal rights?). I hope this helps each and every one of you! I live in Tennessee I went to visit my mother in New York and during the time that i had gotten stuck there (5 months) her father and grandmother had decided to write a bunch of stuff in a petition and get temporary custody of her so that i could not bring her back to tennessee. Become the person you were meant to be. Persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" mood. I went to court with my son and supported him and let God lead me and I WON MY GRANDSON BACK! My son is very angery with me. But now its happening to my grandkids cause parents dont demand real solutions. Symptoms of complicated grief include: trouble thinking about anything other than your loved one's death. . The Good Shepherd takes care of His sheep. And the state is telling me that my daughter will not be reunited with me as long as Im there because its not considered stable housing. The shoe doesnt feel so well on the other foot. It is key to be able to have someone that is fighting for you while you are fighting for your kids. I cant let go of the anger I feel and no one to tell. My granddaughter told me that her foster dad was putting a pillow over her face in her bed I reported this as advised by a child advocacy group to report it to the state police in the foster familys county . But if they are not, work on yourself. Please read your states laws about families and custody decisions. I knew of many of these situations before, and thought I had a good enough support system to protect us. These classes can also help you take better care of yourself through the loss. I went to court today for a continuing restraining order which was denied. The next day I notified our foster worker that he needed to be seen as he was still very sick. I am only 24 with three children. He was separated from his family and went through Hell before he became and important man in Egypt. There is hope for your future, says the Lord. I said go ahead he said daddys been hitting u again huh thats why we cant hug u b/c u hurt to bad and cry its okay to leave daddy we wont be mad.. I have read the last chapter. Start your own movement. Ayla, you can ask for a better visitation agreement through family court. I cry for my girls day and night. Think about what your children would want you to be doing with this time in your life when theyre not with you. He never forces his way into anyones life. Thank you! It was heartbreaking for me. Ive been complying with dcs. No personal phone call. that is the only trustworthy source of truth written in this world. They usually don't even have a criminal record and have never been to jail. I went through and lost. fatigue. I was her caregiver when we had no nurse in the hours she went home. Dearest Kathryn, I feel you girl!!! I adopted a baby gorilla for my daughter. Iv tried everything. Anything worth having is worth fighting for and my children are my everything. Pray for me please! We need to defund them and change laws. Then they terminated our rights. Because my sons (they took my two youngest, ages 6 and 13) want to be home with me. Someone please reach out. Ive done everything the courts have asked but it still isnt enough. So the next time your feeling sad and depressed, let it turn you into the savage beast you need to be to get your kids back. They will no respond. I bought a trunk for each of them. Mothers with a child taken into care had significantly greater ARR of depression (ARR = 1.90; 95% CI, 1.82 to 1.98), anxiety (ARR = 2.51; 95% CI, 2.40 to 2.63), substance use (ARR = 8. . I was threatened to be shot by caseworker if I exposed their behavior. Where there is hope there is faith.. Pray PRAY pray. In my town theres a group of volunteers who clear trash and overgrown blackberry brambles from the yards of homeowners who cant manage to do the work for themselves. Thanks for the work you do on here to help people. Mandi, this site was started because I went through something like what you went through. We may have fallen into the trap but we can get out of the trap and learn from the terror weve been through. I miss my new born son very much. My kids never needed anything even if my mom had to help from time to time which she did often without me asking. God bless everyone here in this forum and more that come here after. They terminate their rights, destroy what little home you have. She just let it go. They are very taken care of. A psychiatrist can prescribe an anti-depressant medication if you want it to help you get through this traumatic time in your life. She is struggling with severe clinical depression and suicidal thoughts and has written an article describing how she feels. Do they need any more grief? I ended up contacting Senators, Representatives, Missouris Attorney General, and our Governor, and then the Social and Health Services in Washington D.C. The lawyer the judge and the caseworker and da all kept evidence from me and lied to me. CPS had been called on her before we had the chance to get it all cleaned up. financial distress form california. I just read what my next experience will be once I stop breathing. She must have felt the same way we do. The Commissioner suddenly retired, and I am told quite a few other people are gone. I do not have my kids back. I thank God for my little ray of sunshine back in my life. Also, dont do this to say goodbye. So I found a residential treatment facility which allows mothers to have their children there with them. We were all ignorant to the laws that govern DSS. I would be supervised 24/7 by qualified people ensuring my daughters safety. Keep trying. It is tearing me apart and I have tried to seek help but it seems there is none. You might believe you don't measure up to other people in terms of looks, age, or weight. ive lost my kids my home everything when i stepped into treatment. 816-645-4152 if you want to know how to have that peace. by . 2. Goodbye. In 1992 but for 15 months they danggled the baby in front of us like a carrot and a donkey.what I am getting at is can they do that. Amy, my heart goes out to you. I can tell you that our Case Manager was fired. This is rare. I also lost my 11 year old son as well as a 9 year old son to CPS, They lied the whole way thru the case!! God works in mysterious ways. Live your life in such a way that your children will have a faithful path on which to follow. Lets form a national and regional company whose only mission is to help parents fight CPS and win and change laws. This only works if a person is morally ready to do something to distract himself. But one day I got on my knees and prayed talking to God like if he was my best friend asking him to forgive me that I couldnt live like anymore that I surrender myself to him that I leave all my problems in his hands. Get comfortable with silence. I know it is a big order, but it is through difficult times like this that we grow spiritually and into a higher form of human maturity. A retrospective study done on maternal mental health after the loss of custody has found that Losing custody of a child to child protection services is associated with significantly worse maternal mental health than experiencing the death of a child. 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