So Im resentful that I cant have those cuddly mornings with my bf any more. Here are common reasons why do dogs become destructive. Ive yet to see a site that discusses the possibility that dog fanatics people who worship their pets as baby humans, rather than those who enjoy their dogs as pets may have issues, and that those issues are health neither for pets, their owners, or their real-world relationships. We recently moved out but only temporarily, we are doing friends a favour and staying in their house until is is sold, as it is for sale. Finally I was able to get a good night sleep without those dogs jumping on and off the bed, and dirty smell everywhere. If there is no compromise, there can be no relationship. Shes training them to bark because they bark and get their way!!! So my (27F) boyfriend (32M) lives with me. Im tired of being restricted on where we can go because of her dog. Oh? I have one, and he is likable tabby. Something gave way in me and I cried, not for my own losses but that I could hurt an animal that I hadnt tried to ameliorate or understand. Educate yourself with free content available on the internet and do most of the training by yourself. The biggest mistake was bringing the dog into the bed because now hes trained to think thats where hes supposed to be. He says its all shes known her whe life and so now Im just mad at them both all the time. I LOVE animals, have always had them. Im glad Im not the only one who feels this way about a dog. The husband/boyfriend may need to rehome the dog if its interrupting the relationship. We couldnt even cuddle on the couch b/c Fido would get jealous and jump on us and whine, and frantically claw us apart! I tried talking to her and proposed putting my two dogs outside and not letting them inside but she said no without hesitating. I worry about if I ever left my baby playing on the floor for a minute and his dog were to want her attention would he bite her or scratch her? They just dont get the socialization they need-especially in winter. He in turn is asking me to consider giving up my home, friends, and family to move to a different state to be with him. I know we need to work on the dogs training, but I feel like it might be easier if my husband liked the dog enough to help share the responsibility of training so that we could tackle it together. Well, I put my foot down and said NO MORE PETS. I am fine until he lets her inside, sure she sleeps on the floor on a matt by the door but I cant take it anymore, I dont know what to do! This is, if she had the ONE dog and didnt have it take precedence over her relationship and obsess about it then it wouldnt really be an issue but I ended up disliking the dog(s) because of her attitude with them. Thank you, however kenneling is not something my hubby and I support. He was nasty to her at times, but I chalked it up to the fact that my dog had a different daddy before him (hahaha). If so, necessary actions can be taken just by following your vets advice. You should come up with a new idea every day because this learning process never ends, and you will see great success as time goes. Oh, bringing the dog down to relieve itself is a pain as well. Then I knew another little personality would enter my life to train, love, and cherish while they were with me. I said I knew he wasnt keen on yappy, exuberant dogs but having seen him fuss and cuddle my parents dogs and my friends puppy, how could I think he was scared of them? We have a 4 month old son and my three year old from a previous relationship. The dependent brother has pets that are poorly trained and the inconsistency in treating of the pets and the resultant bad behavior frustrates me. A woman said they were so sick of his dog, his friends stopped coming over. We cant go on a cruise because he wants to take IT with us. Absolutely not. My boyfriend stays the night with me sometimes and works overnight and sometimes when he comes home, my dog has jumped on the bed while Im passed out and he gets really annoyed. His dog has been an issue since day one. because thats BS ALL hairy animals that spend time both inside and out do. Its been extremely hard to potty train her, if I dont take her out for 2-3 hours she will shit or pee in my kids room ALWAYS THEIR ROOM it makes me so mad. I work too many long hours and its not fair to the pets. I love but hate her. Here its totally different.here i have rules,my dog is not allowed in etc etcim lost.what am i supposed to do? After I got married, my husband decided that he needed a dog as well so he brought home a St Bernard puppy that is now a 3 year old, 160 lb drool machine. Me and my partner have been together for nine years and I relocated to his country in order to live with him. I strongly disagree and when I said this, he got really angry at me. I saw the affection they shared and the love and happiness gained from their relationship. Isnt that crazy?! Btw we live in a apartment -_-. I dont believe in giving boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands or wives ultimatums. Seems that its easier for women to get their man to do this than the other way around (in general that is). This is getting out of control & is affecting our intamacy & having a healty happy relationship. I started to love her. And building a strong relationship with another person requires a tremendous investment of time but can yield tremendous rewards in the long run, rewards that can never be realized with an animal. Youll all be much happier. I hate dogs. If you dont set limits, the dog thinks its a pack leader. I have had a sprained ankle for the past almost 2 weeks from trying to get her to come back in before work. Go out and shoot him?!? We have to take my car everywhere because his is so full of hair. I dont want him to be miserable for the sake of me getting what I want. Having a dog on your bed in my opinion is very uncleanly. I walk the darn thing all week and would love my husband to want to come out with me at the weekend. FYI, we are planning on living in an apartment :( Its just very stressful and need some advice I have been thinking about training, but i dont want that in our new house, because that will be pissed and ruined as soon as they are there, and I just want a clean house and not the additional stress of dogs around me. As I feel she does not care for it properly and number 1, it is not my pet and when I started caring for the dog she completely quit and the dog was becoming my responsibility. Scenario: Met and married my partner with the understanding that he cares for a dependent brother who has not worked through psychosomatic issues. So we decided to take action and ask our landlord to have her live with us, the landlord said yes. Ive been trying to be a team player, but Im worried Im not cut out for this. The dogs sleeps in the bed and I cant stand it. Shes cute but not the small dog I wanted. Its embarrassing, humiliating, and I cant understand it at all. It was very depressing for me and now my moving past it has resulted in resentment towards both dog and boyfriend. I still get to see him occasionally & even get to keep him when they go on vacation. We recently found out I have antibodies in my blood that could be harmful to me and the baby, so I felt overwhelmed with stress. She says she doesnt resent my animals but actions and snide comments made say otherwise. Its been a battle since that day 4 years ago. The other isnt her fav so the kids have it overnight it shits and pisses anywhere if its not let out every half hour if we leave the back door open it will still do it on the floor, i recently had expensive bamboo flooring fitted and many planks are now curling at the edges she had promised the problem out. I totally and 1000% understand where you are coming from! The dogs were all rescued one at a time. My cat sheds a small bit with excessive petting, but it is beyond manageable with regular vacuuming. Depending on the dog, they dont live that long (smaller dogs live longer). He even expected damages and cleanup to remain my issue. When the relationship starts to go downhill, they cling to the dog more almost in a weird attempt at inducing jealousy. I want nothing to do with dogs. My dog died at 3 years old. He has had training and about every option there is for this issue and he just cant stop. The dog doesnt know a leash nor rules. Your husband had to take you into consideration over any dog! We had discussed very thoroughly prior to living together that the house will need to be cleaned often and upkept to minimize as much as possible the hair. The dog might end up dead if it is given away . Once you figure that out the fight wont exist. :( any advice? Anyways, we have had him for 2 weeks, and my Husband and I have done nothing but FIGHT. You live your own life and Ill live mine ^_^ Being human doesnt mean I have to cater to the emotional needs of you or others. It is a very unhealthy bond. recently broke up but live together. My other two cats are female and get along almost all the time but have a fight once in a while that I have to break up and I get scratched. I knew she shed before I moved in but I had hoped to stay on top of it more when actually living here. Together we have two cats and a dog we rescued a couple years ago. How does one tell the Brother in law that this is happening? The hair is floating everywhere and sticking to everything. No amount of vacuuming keeps the hair at bay. We both know that we cant afford to replace the things in our home. So we decided to take action and ask our landlord to have her live with us, the landlord said yes. When I come home and open the door it smells so horrible that Ive thrown up a couple times from it. That dog needs to go, and if your S/O refuses to get it in check, then perhaps you need to go as well. Heres my issue. Some of our friends and family members are not dog people, and well be damned if we alienate those people over a dog. And yes my partner is obsessed with his dog, what he eats, he cant havw treats, B12 and other injections have to be given to him, other medications, etc. Oh My God! I adore my lady. In Peru, they smack them with a stick and then eat them. Next, I wanted another boxer. The cat now will not bury her poop and if he doesnt clean it up right away her next poop is on the floor, anywhere in the house. We love our dog, but we do NOT treat him like a human child because hes not one. Spray some in the dogs mouth so she knows what it tastes like, then spray it on whatever you dont want her to chew. HOW IN THE HELL IS THIS WORTH IT??? I just found out mine was paying about 7.50/kg for food thats available through Amazon for 4.75. They are the one who do not give the training.Dogs are great animals . He even refers to her as his child. How long do puppy blues last and how to overcome? Fml. The whole alpha thing has been disproved, so that is a moot point. Im getting ready to go back to work and I dread what I will come home to. i just cannot see how i will be happy if we all live together. If you still cannot someone, its better to interview several people and give the dog to someone you totally believe and feel comfortable with. The next time I walked in, the dog was on the far right end of the sofa. Our brains are capable of complex thought and emotion! this rat terriers was given a time out in a bedroom, closet or backyard when the barking started. She heels sits stays lies down, dances and more on command. Humans cannot birth dogs. I have never felt so belittled and so not in control of my own dog. He never asked if I would be ok with helping look after a dog. He is confined to his bed and his yard and it makes me sick. My house (which I paid for) will be destroyed, but it doesnt matter because its just a house. Growing up we had dogs but they were never allowed to run in the house never sit on furniture or even go into bedrooms. So thats another issue. Maybe because all he does is yell at him. I dont necessarily agree that when you fall in love with a person you automatically know what youre signing up for I think there should be compromise in all relationships and when it comes down to it if its between your human significant other and your animal and you choose your animal youre going to live a lonely life because at the end of the day you cant have a full life with an animal you cant marry or procreate with an animal and if you truly love this personare you willing to throw it all away for an animal? Subscribe me to the GoodTherapy.org public newsletter. Focus on your relationship and not your furry family stuff. He says Im the sick one being jealous of dog. This dog has even eaten razors that she has used, how its not dead I dont know. Heavy training: You have to spend so much time with several bucks. Because my partner lets her do whatever she wants against how I feel. I seriously clean for nothing. She constantly is dropping her slobbery toys in my lap. I hope it happens but another part of me is still unnerved because he really only doing it because he thinks she is treated bad if he makes her do animal things.. Im honestly so angry, what is even more frustrating is he sees no problem with this at all, Im starting to think I will never change his opinion and he will never compromise. He absolutly does not want any other animals under any circumstance. He gets ten days leave when the baby is born. I would know considering the fact that Ive studied psychology and am well acquainted with about half a dozen theories. See I never knew I wouldnt enjoy living with dogs before I did and I find it so unprofessional of people to say things like divorce them, or they are control freaks in response to a spouse who cannot stand a dog. His cat is out co control- Pees and poop outside the litter box and begs all day for food. Jrs r waaaay too unpredictable around children. Walk her 1-2 miles once in the morning and once at night. Which Im not saying anyone should want that, but no offense at some point you have to grow up and realize everything will die. Absolutely everywhere. His dog is driving me so crazy I feel like Im going to have a stroke. I didnt know how blurred the line had became between him and his dog? But as I said, equally you have a responsibility to ensure that your dog behaves properly and listens to and respects your partner, AND other people. It wasnt a matter of loving an animal, it was that he made me feel he was in love with the dog and it broke my heart over and over again. If anything dog people are the controlling ones. I rescued her without the permission of my spouse and we have been fighting ever since. Run! So, he suddenly loves her? And it will., So true, dont count yourself short, you are worth so much more than being treated as you currently are. You and your partner made a promise to love each other not to split for a freaking animal. They arent children or babies. She is more possessive of our house (Chesapeake) than others. My boyfriend of almost two years has a dog that follows him everywhere begs at our table to the point she is drooling and whining even though I say no. She had a 10 year old golden when we met and I bonded with both the girl and dog. Period! They are not. My partner and I are always arguing over my dog. I tell my mother to stay married to this man means I will never have another pet, which I greatly dislike that thought, but I know my spouse will turn it into a human rather than respecting the species for what God has created. WHITE WIRY AWFUL HAIR. He wants him to be an outside dog when we get a house but I cant stand the idea. no speak was firmly stated and a ten minute time out started counting down once she was put by herself. If I had to do it over, I would not. Why? All I am asking for is to have one room of my own this isnt overrun by dog hair. 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